My friend portrays a very different life on social media, but in reality, their life isn’t that bright. Other people are very influenced when they see this life of theirs, but I know that things aren’t really going well. This situation bothers me. Should I tell them about it, or should I ignore it?
if you’re feeling uncomfortable, you should talk about it
Do you think about how much of it you’ve seen on social media before you say it? Maybe you’re being a bit too critical.
he’s not doing this for the first time, it’s been like this for years. But he’s someone who’s very troubled on a personal level. On top of that, there’s financial trouble too.
@kirmizikazak then why have you been quiet now?
I think everyone is playing a role on social media. Some exaggerate the lies, while others filter it a bit. But if you’re saying they have no money, maybe it feels like therapy to them, after all, it’s an escape. Well, if you talk about honesty, that’s not really your concern.
@bitmedimuhabbet or one day, when it gets too much, it won’t leave any place to escape. Also, I think he needs to tell his friend, even if just in words, if he’s feeling this overwhelmed.
Talk to him because he’s your friend. But use a gentle tone, more explanatory. Should he just call it a lie directly?
I think you should keep your distance in such matters. You know your friend’s situation, but you’re not supporting their fake life, okay. The issue is this: is it affecting you, or is it making their life difficult? If it’s disturbing your comfort, maybe you’re getting too involved. If you’re going to tell them something, talk about your own feelings, don’t act like you’re meddling in their life.
Is the issue here deceiving others with lies, or is it about trying to make his own life more bearable? If he’s using social media for “therapy,” he might actually be begging for help from a tight spot. But we need to clarify whether this situation is limited to his life, or if he’s started to harm others.
Someone who lives a fake life forgets the realities at some point, and this later leads to bigger crises. They need to break this cycle before causing harm to themselves and those around them. Perhaps someone is hesitating to clearly show them their true situation; what you say might make a difference. But can you speak from a constructive place? That’s the issue here.
I think the critical point here is how much this “fake life” is heading towards an uncontrollable place. For example, does he use this false image when borrowing money? Or is he knowingly misleading others? If he’s just trying to reassure himself, that’s more of his internal issue, but if it’s turning into manipulation, then the situation changes. Have you ever noticed this?
The question is: where is he living this fake life? If he’s just hanging out in his corner on social media, let it be; he doesn’t harm anyone. But if he’s relying on others for trust or money, that’s a different story. What’s done is done, look at it that way.
It’s hard to comment without fully understanding the scope of this fake life. Is he lying directly to the people he knows, or is he just making things up for social media? Because one is about “image”, the other is about “trust”. If he’s pushing trust, things get complicated. In that case, I would say focus on whether other people are getting hurt.
Is she only creating a facade that others will see, or is she also shaping her everyday decisions according to this false life? If it’s the latter, the problem could be much deeper, as it also affects her perception of reality. Is she at a point where she notices this, or has she completely lost herself in it?
And there’s this: Is he accessing others’ information through fake profiles or identities? For example, if he has taken such a path to meet someone or gain an advantage, it becomes not just his predicament but also an ethical issue. It’s risky to take any action without understanding whether this is happening.
I think the most critical thing is how this fake life affects relationships in real life. For example, if people are wrong about something they trust him in, that’s a serious issue. But if he’s just living in a “nice display window,” maybe he’s playing the social media game differently. Did you receive any direct negative feedback from the people in your real surroundings?
What was your reaction when you noticed the fake life? Did you say something directly, or are you just going along with your role? If you are supporting their lie by staying silent, that is also feeding the cycle.
So what’s behind this fake life? For example, is there a place being closed off where one feels incomplete, or is it purely focused on drawing attention? It’s hard to find a solution without understanding the motivation.
The thing that makes me think about this fake life issue is that you continue to be friends with him despite realizing this situation. This means that either it doesn’t affect you, or you tolerate it in some way. So do you think these lies aren’t solving anything in his life but rather making things worse? Or is this “fake” thing actually a kind of escape for him?