I’m making wedding preparations with my spouse, but I ran into my ex at a store. We greeted each other without thinking, but my spouse was right beside me. I felt uncomfortable in that moment because facing my past is not very pleasant. If my spouse finds out about this situation, what will they think? Should I keep it from them?
I once ran into my ex while I was engaged. In that moment, I felt like I was going to sweat. I told my fiancée, and honestly, she didn’t even react like I thought she would. But it stayed with me; if I hadn’t said anything, it would have grown even bigger in my mind.
Does your spouse know about your ex? I mean, are they aware of this on the other side? Or do they think that something serious has been discussed between you two?
@benbisorayim actually yes, he knows my ex but doesn’t know who he is in detail. He hasn’t said anything after this incident, just seems to have become a bit quiet.
Honestly, your attitude is more important here than the ex. If you’ve blown it out of proportion in your head and developed an irrational sense of guilt, your partner might feel it and draw strange conclusions. I think you shouldn’t worry so much; just relax.
Of course, communication comes into play. Your partner becoming quiet after noticing this likely means they’re concerned about the situation. If you say sincerely and simply, ‘We ran into each other there, I said hello,’ they won’t create more scenarios in their head.
@hatconene I agree. Sometimes people feel like they’ve done something wrong out of excitement, but being too judgmental can complicate things. It’s better to simply explain what happened.
I wouldn’t even say it.