I feel embarrassed even writing this, but I really messed up yesterday. My close friendās dad has been single for a long time, and as weāve chatted a few times, Iāve developed an unnecessary admiration for him. The other day we ran into each other at the mall, had coffee, and had a great conversation. Then I misinterpreted this and invited him to dinner on Instagram. He said, āIāll bring my daughter along.ā I stupidly didnāt pick up on the hint and wrote a few hours later that I wanted it to be a date. He politely declined and said, āGood luck with guys your age.ā What am I going to do if my friend finds out?
Bittin.
Adam has already kindly set boundaries in your first message. Saying āI can bring my daughter tooā is basically saying ādonāt think of this as a date.ā Youāve turned the situation into a total mess with your second message 
What kind of confidence is this? After all, heās your close friendās dad. Just because the guy is single doesnāt mean heās someone everyone can approach; especially if youāre friends with his daughter, you should have thought twice 
Okay, itās silly but the guy is an adult, heās an adult too. I donāt think thereās a need for excessive moral policing. The problem is more about the age difference and the fact that heās his friendās father and not understanding the clue.
The girl has done a stepmother speedrun 
The best thing you can do here is not to send any more messages. The guy has already shown that he is very mature and polite. If you act normally without pressing, maybe the situation wonāt escalate, but prolonging the explanation will only make it worse.
Iām just now realizing that the phrase āIāll take my daughter tooā is pretty much the answer itself. At that moment, I just panicked and thought I was misunderstood. Now, looking at the message screen, Iāve cooled off about myself.
I think the girl will understand even if the guy doesnāt tell his friend. Dads sometimes talk about these things while laughing because of that. Start preparing the āIām an idiotā speech already
Get well soon.
What are those who say courage experiencing? Itās not bravery to approach every person you like; sometimes itās a lack of social reading. The guy already sees you like a child.
If your friend asks, donāt deny it, just say, āI was talking nonsense, your dad rejected it very politely, so I dropped the subject.ā If you go on the defensive, it will look worse
And donāt forget this: the guy has told you āwith guys your own age,ā indicating both the age difference and how he positions you. He couldnāt have made it any clearer.
Looking at it like Ece, the detail that seems small here is actually at the center of the issue. If I were in that position, I wouldnāt make a definite decision without asking about that detail.
When looking like a bus, the seemingly small detail here actually stands at the center of the issue. If I were you, I wouldnāt make a definite decision without asking about that detail.