I’m 36 weeks pregnant, and as the birth moment approaches, I’ve started to think about other things. It’s not the pain that stresses me out as much as what I will experience during delivery. What if I start shouting in the hospital? What if I do something in the delivery room and the doctors laugh at me? Are there others who have experienced such things? How am I supposed to relax with this mindset?
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9Screaming during childbirth is completely normal. Doctors and nurses see it so often that after a while, they hardly pay attention. I had a natural birth; I screamed, I cried, and nobody even turned to look. Rather than holding it in, just let it go; believe me, in that moment, you can’t think of anything else anyway.
I had an epidural cesarean, and despite that, I was tense hearing screams coming from the next room, but during my own birth, you don’t even think about such things. The focus is completely on having a healthy baby. I’d say don’t worry too much.
Screaming or involuntary movements during birth are entirely a hormonal response. The body uses reflexes like screaming to cope with pain, which is very natural. Doctors and nurses consider this a physical process, not a personal one. If you want to avoid losing control, you might consider taking a course on breathing techniques or watching a video.
It may sound a bit strange to you, but I think the main issue is the ‘fear of embarrassment.’ Setting health aside, if you’re worried about what others think even at a moment like childbirth, you need to question this a bit. Perhaps you should seek support from a professional and look into the roots of this anxiety.
I wanted to give an update because the comments eased my mind a bit. But I would like to add this; actually, it’s not about shouting, but I’m worried about things going wrong unintentionally. Has anyone experienced anything like this?
Hey, I’m going to say something, maybe the real issue is your fear that the doctors will be very cold or judgmental. I think this might not be about you, but rather related to the attitude of the team at the hospital. You know, some doctors are so indifferent that they already stress women out.
I’m sorry, but the real issue here isn’t you, it’s the pressure that society imposes. There’s nothing more natural than women screaming or crying during childbirth. The system that sees this as shameful is the real problem. You’re accomplishing something superhuman while giving birth; how others perceive that is irrelevant. You need to stand up to the system that makes you feel this way.
Honestly, think about this too: you won’t be the only one experiencing the birth process in the hospital at that moment. Everyone focuses on their own story; whether you’re screaming or doing something else, no one will even care. The fears you’re experiencing are really common for most people, but there’s nothing to exaggerate. In that moment, you’ll forget too.
I don’t know much about childbirth, but I keep witnessing the same things on social media. Everyone seems to think about something they would be ashamed of, but it’s childbirth after all. I think whatever anyone does is normal; I would say just go through this process without stressing. There aren’t enough empty people there to judge someone who’s screaming.