Iāve started wearing sports leggings for a while now because theyāre both comfortable and practical after gym sessions. But every day at least one person makes a comment or looks at me oddly. Most recently, while I was buying something at a nearby store, an older woman said, āIs this how women are supposed to show themselves?ā It feels like no matter what I wear, itās going to become a controversy. Do you think the problem is with me, or should I just get used to this?
I experience the same thing, especially when I go straight to the market after the gym. Once, the guy in front of me at the checkout was constantly looking at my legs, and I was at a loss for what to do in that moment. I mean, Iām just dressing comfortably, and itās not our fault if someone misunderstands that, but itās definitely uncomfortable.
I actually donāt think this is a new thing. For example, even when I was in high school, if I wore tight pants, my mom would send me to the store, and I couldnāt escape the watchful eyes along the way. Itās not just an issue with leggings; it seems like people get bothered no matter what a woman does 
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It seems that here the limits of your freedom clash with someone elseās right to ānot be disturbed.ā But from a legal perspective, clothing choice is a matter of personal freedom. No one has the right to tell you āwear this.ā Still, you might consider acting in a way that makes you feel more comfortable in enclosed spaces or crowded environments for your safety.
Let me add that I canāt escape these looks not just at the market, but even when Iām getting on the bus to go to the gym. Men tend to stare more, but honestly, the women sticking out their tongues is more hurtful for me.
Okay, but you keep saying āthey are being disturbedā, donāt you think that the woman you refer to could act a bit according to the situation? What the old lady said is a bad tone, but maybe she wanted to tell you something from her life experience? Instead of arguing with everyone, you could live a bit more in harmony with society.