Men's obsession with breasts feels excessive to me

It might be a matter of taste, but talking about it like that in front of women feels off-putting. Making a list of someone's breasts, hips, and waist seems very immature to me.

Not an exaggeration 🙄

Let me say it as a guy, not everyone falls for the same thing. Some love memes, some faces, some voices, some attitudes. But because the obsession with memes is so loud on the internet, it seems like everyone thinks that way 😂

Well, women talk about shoulders, arms, neck, and voice just like men. When it comes to men's breasts, there's immediately objectification, but is women's appreciation innocent?

The difference lies in the style. Saying 'I love shoulders' is one thing, but judging a woman as an object by saying 'this body part is exaggerated' is another. It's not very hard to understand this.

It's not a problem to have an interest in body parts by itself; the issue is translating that into language that devalues, compares, or pressures the other person. In a partnership, there is not only appreciation but also respect and privacy.

What really irritates me is this. If someone said, 'I don't like that type,' I could get over it, but if someone talked about my body like that, it would really affect my self-confidence. It's like everyone is a display product.

I think you're being a bit sensitive. People have their own sexual preferences, and it's normal to talk about that. When everything gets politicized, no one can say anything anymore 🫠

Most of the men who say those things get flustered when they see women in real life. Online, everyone is an aesthetic jury member.

I think they love the mystery 🫠

If such a topic is to be brought up in a relationship, it should be done without comparison and belittling. "I like this" is different, "yours is not like this" is different. The second sentence directly undermines self-confidence.

Also, don't forget that women have endured years of pressure regarding bras, body shape, firmness, and size. Therefore, the discussions that men have in cafes about 'being exaggerated' may not seem like innocent conversations.

When looking like Merve, the seemingly small detail here is actually at the center of the issue. If I were in your place, I wouldn't make a final decision without asking about that detail.