Lately, my spouse doesn’t even say hello when coming home. There’s no desire to talk or spend time together. I also prefer to stay quiet so as not to disturb them, but this situation makes me sad. What do you think I can do to change this?
My spouse was like that too for a while. I found out they were sitting in the car for 2 hours after work; they said it was stress. Maybe your spouse has something similar going on due to work as well, I think you should try talking without putting pressure.
So when did he/she start doing this? Was it always this cold before, or has it just started recently?
@kahvebitmeden it’s been like this for about a month, it wasn’t like this before. I thought maybe there was something going on with work or with their family, but whenever I ask them, they always say ‘nothing’s wrong.’
You’ve really accepted it quite quickly; not pushing the issue is a mistake. If you keep doing that, they’ll get used to it. Things won’t get resolved without speaking openly.
A lack of communication in these types of issues accumulates over time. It may be necessary to open up the conversation in a timely manner and try to understand their feelings. Consider consulting a specialist; couples therapy can make it easier to see things from an outside perspective.
It’s officially the classic tactic of saying ‘nothing is happening’ and watching the situation escalate. Although we all do this at some point. But I think you also contribute too much by staying silent.
This is not normal.
Could there be something broken at home? It’s not something outside or in the family, but rather something that is disturbing within the house that comes to mind. Silence might be a form of reaction.
Maybe they are not broken over something, but feel incomplete or inadequate. They have expectations of you but seem unable to express them. In such times, silence sometimes speaks volumes; can you read the signs carefully?
Maybe something has happened, a detail you haven’t noticed. For example, a discussion, a word, a small incident. Instead of fixating on the “nothing’s wrong” part, try to remember what has changed since then.