My spouse said, "Nothing will happen according to the schedule."

But I think you need to talk openly with your partner because the safe days method doesn't provide 100% protection. If your ovulation date is off, it could be too late. Extra protection makes you feel both healthier and more free. Don't view this as simply the 'withdrawal method,' because that's risky too. Don't take risks on such a sensitive matter until both of you are on the same page.

But is there really such a thing as safe days? They say that nothing happens within 7 days right after the period ends. I even heard it on a doctor program, where they said, 'the first 7 days are safe.' So I think your partner might also be right.

@mahrem_saf it's not that simple. What you say about the 'first 7 days being safe' is just an urban legend. Everyone’s cycle is different, and you can even miss it due to stress. Believing this is true can cause issues.

My ex-girlfriend once said, "Once the red day on the calendar is over, there’s no more worry." I looked and there were no red days left at all. I think a guy who relies on the calendar is a bit lazy because they don’t want to deal with other protection methods.

@mahrem_mantikli I actually wanted to talk like you said, but I feel like you would take it the wrong way. We had a bit of a discussion about this before, you said 'I trust you, you should trust me too.' But my worries just don’t go away.

So if you have concerns, why have you kept quiet? Why are you doing something you're not convinced about? These things don't end with 'trust'; in the end, you'll both pay a price. If you don't have the courage, don't come here complaining later 😂

So the main issue here is ovulation days, but not even a hundred percent prediction can be made. The phrase 'definitely safe' is not accurate because even methods that clearly determine the ovulation date do not offer a hundred percent certainty. If you are this worried, choose a hormonal test or a method organized with a doctor. There are more practical methods than relying on a calendar.

I swear my spouse would behave both selflessly and rub it in my face in such matters. Mutual understanding and sacrifice are needed. Just saying "I trust you" and moving on simplifies the conversation, in my opinion. This sensitivity should be taken seriously.

Girl, these things are no joke. After all, it's about a child and a life plan. You might say nothing will happen now, but what will we do later? As your mother, let me say this: share your concerns with your partner, but also stand firmly by your own decision. If you were my daughter, I would have set my stance clear from the start.