I just met someone who talks quite flashy things about their job, but after a while, I feel like they’re exaggerating a bit. Is it normal for everyone to show off a little in flirting, or is this a bad signal? What would you do in such a situation?
I experienced the same situation, I swear. The guy said he worked on Wall Street while talking about his career. Later, I checked on LinkedIn, and he turned out to be just a regular office worker at a mid-sized firm. I cooled off right after learning this. I think it’s a clear bad signal.
I’ve had a similar experience. He kept saying he managed projects, so I looked into it and found out that the company he works for doesn’t even have the capacity to handle big projects. Be very careful, as those lies can lead to bad places.
So, it’s like this: at first everyone puts on a bit of a polish, but if they’re overdoing it, I think you should ask yourself why you’re caring so much about it. Maybe the guy isn’t used to talking about things like that and got a bit excited?
Lying in flirting usually stems from individuals’ conscious or unconscious lack of self-esteem. This behavior, aimed at making oneself appear more valuable, undermines trust in the relationship. The real issue is this person’s inability to define their boundaries of honesty. Similar situations may arise in the future, so it is wise to be cautious.
Let me add this as well, I actually liked it at first because I thought he had both a talented and a bold style. But constantly saying ‘me, me’ and talking about his work felt a bit strange. I’m not really sure if it’s true; it seems like he might be making it up.
Trust in society has already been damaged. If we think that “little lies are normal” even in flirting, how will relationships be healthy in the long run? Everyone needs to speak the truth properly. This isn’t about neighborhood pressure or anything; it’s a fundamental value.
Men seem to exaggerate in such situations more for the sake of “gathering attention.” I once encountered someone like that while dating, and then they came up with a defense like, “everyone does this anyway.” What I’m saying is, usually about 50% of that statement is a lie.