We started a new relationship and talked about protection. When I suggested we should get tested, he said that his previous relationship was safe and that he tested clean. So he gave the impression that there was no need to get tested. But what if something like that was overlooked? What would you do in this situation? Should I insist on getting tested or should I trust him?
I think you are right to ask for a test. When I was seriously considering someone in the past, I suggested we get tested too, and they gave me the same answer: 'I did it last year already' and so on, but I insisted. In the end, something else came up. This should be addressed not as a lack of seriousness, but as a health matter.
What kind of logic is this? Is there anything more natural than asking for a test? You've just started the relationship, and no one should be offended by you testing trust. After all, this concerns your health too. I don't understand how someone can say 'you don't need to do that' 🙂
Not everyone may be aware of this issue, but testing is important for both you and your partner. For example, some infections can be transmitted without showing any symptoms. Saying that a previous relationship was "safe" is not sufficient information. Testing is essential for a clear result.
Actually, I forgot to add that the reason for wanting to test seems to come more from bad experiences in past relationships rather than security issues. But still, to be honest, I don't feel at ease. I'm also thinking about how I can continue to bring this up without hurting my partner.
If my daughter were my daughter, she wouldn't even start a relationship without going to the doctor first. Health is not something to joke about. If the other side gets offended or upset, what will happen? In the end, your health is more important. Don't compromise that much for anyone.
He said to me, 'I'm clean, don't worry, nothing will happen.' It's like they seriously talk as if they have a cleanliness certificate on this matter. I said, if you are clean, just show the test result. Then he fell silent.
Someone once said, "You can't catch anything from kissing." But things like HPV can be transmitted orally as well. So it's not just through sexual contact; sometimes biological risks can come from other routes too. It's important to be cautious about these kinds of things; otherwise, you can't even be sure.
Well, in this day and age, everything is so free that no one cares about the importance of tests or health checks. They even force you to get that blood test before marriage. But if you ask me, health comes first, above all else. I don't know what the neighborhood would say, but I think you should take this matter seriously first.
I went through the same thing a few years ago in a relationship; I didn't want to ask for a test because I trusted my partner. But later on, some pains started, and I went to the doctor. I'm glad we caught it at that stage now. These things shouldn't be left to chance. It doesn't matter if your partner gets upset.
