I took a pregnancy test, but should I keep the result to myself?

Pregnancy & Birth
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I feel like a complete mess right now. I took a test, it clearly came out positive, but I’m hesitant to tell my boyfriend. Because we haven’t even made our relationship official yet… I mean, whether we should know or not, it’s always spinning in my head. Do you think I should talk about it right away or should I try to buy some time?

2

I went through the same thing, honestly it looks very similar. When I first got the positive test result, I was in shock and couldn’t tell my boyfriend right away. But within a week, I composed myself and talked about it; if you wait too long, the situation might become more complicated. If you’re serious with him, I think you should explain it openly.

3

I think you should see a doctor without wasting any time. If the test comes back positive, get a doctor’s confirmation so your decision is definite. You could also casually ask your boyfriend, ‘Should we go to the doctor’s appointment together?’ That might help you feel less anxious.

4

But if you know you’re not ready, why did you take such a risk? I mean, getting pregnant without properly formalizing the relationship seems a bit unstable. If your boyfriend is saying, ‘are we ready?’ maybe he’s not really on board with this kind of thing.

5

It’s very normal to feel anxious during this process, as the mental burden increases along with hormonal changes. It’s important to share your feelings with someone without suppressing them, but you should first seek support from a specialist. I’m sure the obstetrician and the psychological counseling unit will guide you.

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Let me add that I haven’t actually been in touch with my boyfriend for a very long time; it’s been about 6 months. But we had serious conversations, and we imagined a future together. So it’s not a completely disconnected situation, but still, I can’t be sure; his reaction scares me.

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So, do you normally talk about serious things like this in your relationship? For example, have you ever exchanged thoughts about marriage or children regarding the future? Or was this completely unexpected for him? :slightly_smiling_face: