During the meeting I had with my boss today, he kept talking while looking elsewhere. This really bothered me because I wanted to bring up some issues at work, but his indifference affected me. What do you think about this situation?
We had an old boss who would talk to me without ever looking me in the face. At first, I felt bad about it, but later I realized the guy was just generally preoccupied with other things. Maybe it wasn’t indifference, but rather his own issues.
How long has this been going on? Is this the first time, or have they always been indifferent?
@camkenari actually not for the first time, it’s happened 2-3 more times. usually it seems like they’re listening roughly but looking elsewhere.
I think you’re taking it too personally. After all, he’s the boss; isn’t it a bit too much to expect him to empathize 100% with everyone?
If you’re bothered by this directly in a professional setting, you need to state it clearly. Maybe they’re not aware, you could ask, ‘I felt ignored, could I have misunderstood?’
Come on, I think this is a serious disrespect.
My boss didn’t make eye contact either, but it was just because of shyness. Maybe it’s a similar situation?
I think you should try talking about it as soon as possible, independently of work. You can directly say, ‘I feel neglected when we’re talking.’ Clarity is important.
But if they do it like this, it can really create a tense work environment. Sometimes we overread the attitude of the person opposite us and create unnecessary tension.