Hey girls, I took a test last week and it came back positive. But honestly, I don’t know what to do, we haven’t talked about having a baby with my boyfriend yet. How should I tell him? Or should I wait and see a doctor first to confirm it? I’m really feeling uncertain.
I think you should talk to him directly, you’ve already been waiting for a week anyway. If you don’t tell him this now, you might later hear things like ‘why didn’t you tell me right away.’ But of course, explain it calmly, there’s no need to panic right now 
Something similar happened with my sister. She first went to the doctor to confirm it, then sat down at the bar and said she wanted to talk about something serious in a calm manner. I think it’s more logical to clarify things first, and then talk.
I don’t mean to say anything hurtful, but isn’t it a bit strange that you’ve never talked about such a serious issue with your partner before? I mean, it’s not just your responsibility, of course, but it seems like there’s a bit of unpreparedness in this situation.
First of all, I recommend getting a definite confirmation from a healthcare professional to fully trust the test result. Early home tests can be misleading. Afterwards, it’s very important to maintain open communication with the person you’re sharing this news with. You should follow a path that supports your joint decision-making process.
Thank you all. Let me add that the reason I couldn’t speak was also because he implied before that he wasn’t thinking about having a baby. That’s why I was scared. I made an appointment to see a doctor, and I’ll definitely talk once the results are clear.
I can say I experienced the same thing. My partner always said she didn’t want a baby, but I had to talk about it. I was very scared, but she didn’t react as badly as I thought. I think you should say it directly but calmly, without exaggerating the tension.
I still think that having such an unaddressed relationship dynamic with your partner in serious matters is not healthy. Even if you have a child, this lack of communication can complicate things. I hope you can resolve it.