What did my mom say when I told her I was pregnant?

My aunt hasn’t been willing to talk to me ever since she heard I’m pregnant. In fact, she called and said, “You’ve grown up enough; focus on other things.” Instead of being proud of me, her criticism really hurt me. I honestly can’t share this with anyone; please help me.

my aunt had a similar reaction too. we didn’t talk for a while, but then she gathered herself. people can react like this, but I think it shouldn’t be taken so personally :grimacing:

What does it mean when he says “do you want this?”

So, did you ask your aunt directly why she said that? Maybe there’s another reason for her behavior :smiling_face_with_tear:

@sonrakisef actually this isn’t the first time, they’ve always intervened in my decisions before. my mom doesn’t say anything either. so it’s something I’m used to, but this time it felt really heavy :face_with_open_eyes_and_hand_over_mouth:

@aklimkaldi then they continue when there’s no response, at some point you need to cut them off. It seems to me that you are allowing this.

these reactions may stem from the role expectations of the environment, especially within the family. a person should be supported in making their own decisions in healthy relationships. try having a conversation but be sure to set your boundaries.

I felt like there was some sort of hidden alliance between your aunt and your mom. Your mom’s silence might also be a part of it. Have you ever tried talking to your mom about this one-on-one? It might be easier to get your aunt to understand.