My friends group continued without me when my account got frozen

Your thoughts about them opening an account feel like opportunism; I experienced the same thing at work. They had taken over my new project without my knowledge, and the manager said to settle it but it didn't get resolved. I think you should just ask them directly.

I have a question: was there normally a conversation about opening this account that you were also involved in? Or did it only come up when you froze it completely?

@iki_dakika it happened completely in my absence, so I got even more annoyed.

@camkenari Is this really something to be blown out of proportion? Social media is full of new ideas every day; what happens if someone goes with your idea? There’s no originality left in the world anyway.

@uykuarasi I think it's a problem for them to cross that line between work and social life. Wouldn't you be uncomfortable if you were in their shoes? 🤭

Eye-related symptoms should be taken seriously; reducing screen time may be good in the short term, but there could be an underlying issue. It makes sense to consult a neurology or eye health specialist again. In the meantime, you might also consider trying blue light filter glasses.

@aklimkaldi it seems like you already know the answer deep down while writing about this topic, either you will stop asking or you will just hit them with it directly. Being in between will wear you out.

they've seriously stepped on your toes, speak up.

I say just gather them all through messages and have a talk. If you hold back and stay silent, it will be harder 😅

How many people are in this group? Is everyone involved, or did just a few people start it? Depending on that, it will be clearer who to say what to.

It's normal for them to do something in your absence, but keeping it completely secret is strange. I mean, at least something like "we thought of this while you were gone, is that okay?" would be said. Just bypassing you isn't nice.

Is there perhaps another dynamic within the group? For example, a core team that dislikes your idea and comes up with an alternative plan? Because this "bypass" situation looks a bit organized.

Maybe they perceived you as "out" because you froze? I mean, even if you're actually in the group, they might have mentally sidelined you. That doesn't make them right, of course, but consider how their minds work.

Maybe the issue isn't just about the ice cream, but how they interpret *how* you talk about the ice cream. For example, if there's a perception in the group that "he's tired now, wants to pull away," then people might have pulled back in order not to pressure you. I think it's necessary to ask directly and clarify, because you can't solve things by reading minds.

Maybe someone has taken the lead and put the group in "we can continue among ourselves" mode. But the real question is this: how was your relationship with them before you froze the group? Were you as close with everyone? Because if there are different distances, that can be normalized.

Could it be that someone has taken advantage of your absence and changed the dynamics of the group? I mean, freezing might just be an excuse; the real issue could be the old balances. Especially if you've had issues with one person, that might have led to a disconnection.

Maybe the issue isn't the group, but your ice cream process. If there's always uncertainty in the background about "when will it come back, will it come back," people might have tried to find a rhythm out of necessity. Anyway, did they say anything when this ice cream was opened? What was their reaction? You can draw some conclusions from that.

If there is such an effort to organize the group, then a "leader" must have definitely stepped in here. Who made the decision to leave you out when freezing, is there no trace of it in the messages? Focus directly on that, don't drown in the overall group.