We were together for the first time without making plans, and now I'm feeling anxious.

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I recently had my first experience with someone, but to be honest, we didn’t talk about protection or what to do afterwards at all. It felt like everything just happened spontaneously. Now I feel both guilty and anxious. What should I do in this situation? I mean, is it normal to be this thoughtless?

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I experienced the same thing, it was my first time and honestly, I couldn’t think of anything at that moment. We completely overlooked protection and all that. The next day, I went straight to the pharmacy and got the morning-after pill, just in case. Did you take a test or anything?

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My daughter, these things are not something

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From a man’s perspective, he might have gotten caught up in the excitement of the situation. But on the other hand, the fact that he didn’t talk about protection is frankly irresponsible. He should have taken responsibility there as well. I would advise you not to take any steps without clearly discussing this issue again.

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If only such things happened in marriage, everyone would be more comfortable. What will happen when you act this freely, of course? Then you feel guilty, but you should have thought first :smiling_face_with_tear:

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In such situations, it is important to first ensure that there is no risk of an unintended pregnancy or sexually transmitted disease. You can take a pregnancy test as soon as possible; it usually gives results within 10-14 days after unprotected intercourse. Additionally, it is important to see a doctor.

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Actually, I thought about whether the morning-after pill balances hormones or anything like that, but I have no idea how it’s taken. And you mentioned a blood test, which scared me a bit, but I guess I’ll have to get it done.

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I have a question: did you forget this protection at that moment, or did it never come to your mind? It feels like if we had talked about it a bit, something like this wouldn’t have happened.

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If such things are going to be your first experience, they generally happen unplanned anyway. But it’s also important to take precautions immediately after an event occurs. You’re not too late yet; just being a bit more aware is enough.