Every time, she keeps questioning our relationship. The other day, she said, âIs he worthy of you? Pay attention to that.â My spouse immediately started defending my mother-in-law without hesitation. What should I do? Should I set boundaries with my mother-in-law?
It happened to me too. My mother was constantly interfering in my relationship with my spouse. We found the solution in strengthening the bond between my partner and me. Sometimes, the mother-in-law feels the need to control.
Has your spouse never been by your side on this issue? Is your mother-in-law always like this or is she just expressing such opinions lately?
@soncaykaldi I can actually say this isnât the first time. They are very close with her mother, and my wife usually goes on the defensive right away.
Your spouseâs switching to defense is a separate issue, no hard feelings. You need to cut off your mother-in-lawâs comments first; you should talk to your spouse. Because if theyâre always backing them up, your boundary will be meaningless.
Itâs a bit like a co-parenting relationship problem. Your partner needs to establish boundaries with their mother. Generally, in situations like this, open communication and clear rules are effective. Comments like âare you worthy of him/herâ already invade personal space.
I think you might be exaggerating a bit.
On our side, my aunt would constantly do the same things, she would text to invite us for dinner. They keep pushing if you donât react. Thatâs why you have to be clear from the beginning.
thatâs not possible
I guess those who say âyouâre being overprotectiveâ have never had to deal with a mother like this. Saying âare you worthy of herâ is just plain disrespectful, you know.