My love, you haven’t been talking to me much lately and you’re constantly checking your ex’s stories. I sometimes feel uneasy while trying to understand the situation. Is this just jealousy, or is there really something going on?
If that’s normal, I don’t know much.
So, did you ever ask him/her about this story thing directly?
I asked before the coffee was finished, and he just said he was looking. But it wasn’t a comforting answer at all.
I’m sorry, but if you’re this disturbed and still continuing, what will change anyway?
Honestly, the issue here isn’t just the story. It seems like there’s a trust problem with your partner. You need to clarify if this is jealousy or an intuitive discomfort. I suggest you ask questions directly and calmly.
I think looking at an ex’s stories is a clear sign of interest. Why would someone who says they just look at them suddenly focus on their ex? Either there are still feelings, or they are testing your patience. Don’t normalize such behavior.
The main point here isn’t your reaction, it’s his attitude. How much do your boundaries overlap with someone who normalizes looking at their ex’s stories? Did you say you were uncomfortable, and if so, what was his reaction? I wish you had given a bit more detail.
Is it just about looking at the stories, or did you see any other suspicious behavior? Or do you think this way just because of that? Because sometimes we might attach too much meaning to things, and at other times we could be right, of course. But just the story issue seems a bit complicated on its own.