I received a new job offer, which is better than my current salary, but the job seems more intense. I opened up about it to my girlfriend, and she said, 'Why are you making such a big deal out of it? You're already doing fine.' Is it really that simple? Isn't it important for my career? Do you think that's a reasonable reaction, or am I being too sensitive?
I think your partner's comment is a bit strange. Work life isn't just about "getting by"; it's related to where you want to take yourself. When I was making such a decision, my ex had said "forget it, don’t bother," and honestly, I got cold feet. Not having support is frustrating.
Honestly, it's not something to be taken so lightly. If my partner were to say something like this to me in a similar situation, I'd think a lot about it. Life isn't just about getting by today. Besides, why are you even telling your partner about your career? I mean, you know best after all 🫢.
I think the issue here is not with your girlfriend, but with your communication. Have you been able to explain to her exactly why this matter is important? If she said, 'You're just getting by comfortably,' it might mean that she doesn't fully understand your struggles. You could try to be more open in your conversation 😳
In such situations, a person's value priorities actually come into play. Financial comfort and professional satisfaction are concepts that everyone assigns different meanings to. If the person in front of you does not share the same priorities, you should either talk about it or pay attention to the difference between you.
Let me update you, actually there was something similar before. They had also talked about another issue as if it were 'not that important'. Once I realize this, I think I will try to explain the magnitude of the situation and why it matters.
Just look over there! "You're living comfortably," they said, so this is how they see you. People always have this condescending attitude! Honestly, I just bring these things up directly. Being in a relationship is all about supporting each other 🥲
Girls are always like that anyway. You never say, "Oh, career, oh, success, let's find some comfort." Your girlfriend rightly reminded you of this, and you're getting by. What more are you after?
I think you should do a profit-loss calculation first. You say the new job is busier; how much will it affect your quality of life? If it's necessary for your career, focus more on your long-term plans rather than your partner's reaction. Sit down and talk openly with them about your reasons 🙃
