I thought my fiancé and I always talked openly about financial matters, but he bought gold for his mother-in-law without telling me about the money we saved for the wedding. To be honest, this upset and angered me. I mean, this money was saved for the wedding; should things like this be done without discussion? I don’t want to cause any family trouble, but this situation has cast a shadow over our wedding preparations. What would you do in my place?
I’ve experienced something similar. My fi
This is pretty weird, how can he do that without talking?
You’re saying you learned about it without being informed beforehand, where did you hear that from? Did he tell you himself, or did you find out by mistake?
@soncaykaldi he said he didn’t think there would be a problem. But still, I was just uncomfortable.
you’re exaggerating a bit here. After all, buying gold for his family isn’t a bad thing, and the wedding situation will be sorted out. Is it really worth stressing over?
@kirmizikazak has nothing to do with it, if it’s a common fund, spending it without talking is wrong. The one who cares about this is right.
In the marriage preparation process, decisions made unilaterally like “I’ve done it” can lead to trust issues. You can calmly discuss the matter with them and indicate that you will make decisions together on all expenses in the future. When financial issues come to the forefront, communication becomes more important.
Sleep on it, it’ll work itself out.
Could this have become a routine for them? As they described, thinking “there won’t be a problem” is quite relaxed. What if it’s their first time, but it happens again?