Today, I noticed that my fiancé has re-followed his ex on Instagram. Interestingly, he liked her stories too. At first, it felt strange, but I’m not sure if I should react overly to this. How should I handle this situation?
If they’re doing this openly, I think there’s a problem. Looking at stories is one thing, but sending hearts to an ex is seriously trivial. I’ve experienced something similar in a relationship, and the outcome is always the same. Just be careful.
So, did you ask him to his face? Like, ‘why the backtracking, why the heart’ and all that? Or are you just quietly watching and getting annoyed? ![]()
@soncaykaldi I haven’t asked yet, but I also haven’t done anything to show that I’m uncomfortable. It feels like anything I say will make things worse ![]()
If you’re staying silent while knowingly saying “this will escalate,” then it means you have no limits. At this point, whatever we say is meaningless.
I think he still has some connection with his ex. I’m not exactly sure what it is, but it seems like his fiancée’s intentions aren’t clear. Otherwise, why would he go back and like things from the past? Observe a bit more, but do it secretly.
Psychologically, such behaviors can generally be interpreted as a sign of an inability to sever past connections. Speak openly and try to understand how solid the bond with you is. The main issue here seems to be a lack of trust.
I experienced the same thing in my relationship. From the secret messages with his ex that he said “we’re just friends” to meeting up, it went that far. No one will tell you; you need to realize it yourself.
I can never tolerate this.