I got really upset when I found out that my fiancée is still texting her ex. No matter how platonic we say it is, questions keep swirling in my mind. If this situation is also waiting for an answer from me while my family prepares for the wedding, it’s a complete mess. What path should I take?
This happened to me once before. I caught my fiancé messaging his ex-girlfriend. He later explained that they were only talking for work reasons, but we had a big argument because he didn’t inform me.
How did you find out that he is messaging his ex? Did he tell you, or did you notice it yourself?
@makarnaoncesi I noticed. I accidentally saw one of your messages, and it felt like you were hiding something.
@soncaykaldi but I think it’s understandable to discuss things for work reasons. Should people necessarily become enemies if it completely ends?
It’s important to be open in communication now, but regular correspondence with an ex definitely pushes boundaries. To avoid creating insecurity, you need to have a serious conversation to clarify what friendship means for both of you.
I would just cut it and throw it away.
These things keep happening. Every week someone on the forum writes, ‘Can’t my fiancé forget his ex?’ The solution is clear: talk about it or end it.
What does the message say? The content is important. Is it just a casual greeting, or are old issues being brought up? Depending on that, the rationale for the discussion would change.