We have a mutual friend, and my boyfriend is constantly commenting on their stories. They joke around sometimes, but he almost reacts to every post. It’s starting to feel like he doesn’t show me that much interest sometimes. Am I overreacting, or do I need to set a boundary?
It seems a bit odd. If they’re not approaching their own stories like this, then their level of interest is questionable. I had a similar situation with a friend, and it turned out to be flirtation later on. Of course, not everyone will be like that, but be careful.
Have you ever asked your girlfriend about this? I mean, why are you commenting so much on that girl? Maybe it’s something completely innocent, but you deserve an explanation.
@zeynpsrn Yeah, I asked, but he said, “we’re just friends, are you overthinking it?” It felt like he brushed me off a bit. I didn’t want to push it too much, so we wouldn’t be on bad terms.
I don’t agree. There are people who talk like that to everyone; they’re extremely active on social media. Maybe it’s just their general style, you shouldn’t take it personally.
Commenting on stories may seem like a minor behavior in the dynamics of social media, but it can significantly alter perceptions among people. You can draw clear boundaries regarding this with your partner. If they say it’s just “friendship”, specify the particular point that bothers you. If they continue to do so, you may need to revisit the topic of boundaries in your relationship.
I think the person asking is right. They say they even forget to comment on their own stories, but they’re always hanging out with the other girl. This feels like double standards.
Look, I’m gonna say something, I don’t think it’s a situation that needs to be blown out of proportion. People are already acting crazy on social media. Responding to stories in real-time doesn’t mean flirting. Maybe the girl’s posts are just eye-catching.
@mehmetkardes Do you think it’s normal for him to comment on every story, even if it’s noteworthy? I think there’s clearly some discomfort here. We shouldn’t underestimate the feelings of the one asking.