The patron looked at my skirt and said, "not suitable for the office"

My boss said to me, “You shouldn’t be this eye-catching, you’re in a work environment,” because of a blouse I wore to the office. It was actually just a perfectly normal shirt, with long sleeves and fitting. I seriously felt embarrassed. What do you think I should do in this situation? Should I confront him directly or just ignore it?

'Your colleague said, ‘You are already the most striking element of the office’… Someone once told me, ‘No matter what you wear, you shine.’ How ridiculous, we’re just doing our jobs anyway. Honestly, some men talk out of their complexes :roll_eyes:.

What’s the logic in that? What does wearing a blouse have to do with attracting attention? Offices already have a casual dress code. But I’m thinking, if they can make comments like this, could it be that she’s attracted attention, maybe if it were completely normal they wouldn’t bother? :melting_face:

Your boss’s behavior may cross into discrimination or bullying in the workplace. If your outfit is not against company policy and there is no specific application, they may not have the right to warn you about it. However, if it turns into a written warning, you should definitely consult an employment lawyer.

Let me add this, I wore dark-colored pants under the blouse, so it wasn’t light-colored or patterned or anything like that. It was really quite normal. I can maybe say it sat a little at waist level.

Reading your update gives off a classic boss vibe. You mentioned “it was tight on the body,” and maybe that could have bothered the office’s line. Choosing a few less attention-grabbing pieces might make you feel more comfortable too.

Here, boundaries and records seem more important than feelings. It would be safer to keep any message, payment, or conversation and then proceed with a clear mind.

Here, boundaries and records seem more important than feelings. It’s safer to keep everything—messages, payments, conversations—and then take a step calmly.

Here, boundaries and records seem more important than emotions. It’s safer to store everything — messages, payments, conversations — and then take a step calmly.

Here, boundaries and records seem more important than emotions. It’s safer to keep any messages, payments, or conversations and then take action with a clear mind.

It seems that limits and records are more important than emotions here. It’s safer to store messages, payments, and conversations and then take action with a calm mind.

It seems that boundaries and records are more important than feelings here. Storing messages, payments, conversations, and whatever else, then taking steps calmly is safer.

It seems that boundaries and records are more important here than feelings. Keeping whatever messages, payments, and conversations there are, and then proceeding with a calm mindset would be safer.

It seems that limits and records are more important here than emotions. Keeping any messages, payments, conversations, etc., and then taking a step calmly would be safer.