This morning in the meeting, I had a disagreement with my boss over a report. While I was trying to stay calm, suddenly they raised their voice and humiliated me in front of everyone. After the meeting, I thought about going up to talk to them, but I’m not sure how they would react. In this kind of situation, do you think I should respond directly or would it be better to stay calm and brush it off?
I can’t accept something like this. I went through something similar; I stayed silent in that moment and then felt angry at myself for two weeks. Go talk to him, but calmly. If he yells again, it’ll be clear what he’s after.
Has he ever shouted like this before? Is it the first time in front of everyone?
@uykumgeldi had said some harsh things privately before, but this is the first time it has happened like this toward everyone.
I think you are being too sensitive; there is an explanation for the phrase about sabotaging the job. You need to fully understand the situation before speaking definitively.
But my boss’s terror makes everyone say ‘just be quiet and move on’, yet I think it’s impossible to work in peace in such a relationship. No one should have to tolerate insults or shouting.
In corporate communication, the healthiest approach in such situations is to first try to talk privately. You can express that behaving calmly is not acceptable and that shouting is not a solution. You can also relay the situation to human resources in a soft manner.
@benbisorayim you’re right, but HR is usually more on the side of the employer than the employee. Honestly, I would just look for another job directly 