I’ve been working at a new company for a week. Today, my boss called me into his office; at first, we were talking normally, but then he leaned over the desk and started asking personal questions. I mean things about my private life, whether I have friends, what I did over the weekend, and so on. I felt very uncomfortable but tried to remain professional. Do you think I’m overthinking this, or will there be more to it?
I think don’t prolong the matter at all, be clear next time in such a situation by saying ‘I don’t want to get into personal questions.’ If you ask whether more will come after that, it can happen if you don’t set this attitude.
You only understand these things when they happen to you. It’s already 2023, and these things are still happening. I’ve trained myself to say, ‘I’m not one to share my personal life, let’s stick to work.’ It needs to be cut off politely.
My old boss used to do the same, but he would often talk without really understanding. If he’s not pushing too much, I’d say don’t worry about it. Reading every “What did you do on the weekend?” question as an intention can cause unnecessary stress in work life.
In what context did this sentence “So you love living alone” come up, was it directly a continuation of a personal question? Because if so, it’s a bit concerning.
@yazipsildim Yeah, they said that when they found out I live alone. It seems like a very normal thing, but I honestly felt uncomfortable.
@makarnaoncesi it’s not that simple. Bro, there’s a difference in positions at work; just saying ‘Cut it nicely’ isn’t enough for some. What if the guy is creating pressure?
In such situations, workplace ethics are important; they should not exceed the limits of tolerance. If you feel uncomfortable, there’s no harm in sharing it with an HR official. I would advise not to act by reading intentions before it enters an official record.
I don’t think it’s malicious, but be clear. If you can’t say you were disturbed, it will continue.