Is it weird to watch porn with your partner?

It can be done. But it's only possible if both sides truly want it; if one person is just agreeing to keep their partner from getting upset, that will eventually lead to a fight.

Never.

You've made the question very long, but the topic is clear—you're curious. I don't think wanting this makes you a bad person; you just need to know what your partner's boundaries are.

I get jealous, you know. It really bothers me when someone watches other women/men next to me and then touches me. Don't give me lessons on modernity 🤭

What kind of logic is that? Isn't it a bit excessive to be jealous of the person you see on screen? Then should you break up whenever a romantic scene appears in the movie?

We tried it once, and honestly, it was funny. Neither of us could take the scenes seriously; we just closed it and laughed. It doesn’t have the same effect on every couple 😂

What's important here is not the porn, but the issue of expectations. If you take those things as a real measure of performance, it can damage the relationship; but if it stays within mutual curiosity and consent, it might not be a problem.

Oh, I'm embarrassed 😅

Let me add that my partner once said something like, 'it would be more comfortable if we watched together.' I just laughed it off at the time, but inside I was curious. I don't know if I would get jealous or not.

I think couples get cold towards each other if they watch it, because people inevitably compare with those there. They even say it can be addictive; once you start, you always want to watch.

Not everyone will become addicted to what they watch; it's not that straightforward. However, if it constantly creates comparisons, expectations, and pressure, then yes, that's problematic. You won't understand the difference without discussing it.

I say I love watching it and I'm ending my opinion.

I see this as a lack of respect for the relationship. If the person you love is next to you, why do you feel the need to look at someone else? It doesn't make sense to me.

Well, not everyone's relationship dynamic is the same. What seems disrespectful to you might feel like a game to someone else. The real issue is whether it's about imposing it or wanting it together; I think that's where the distinction lies.

If I were in that position, I would ask it directly in a clear sentence instead of letting it grow inside me. But I think the real point to look at is when they become defensive or try to turn the topic to you while answering. 🫠