Everything was normal with my girlfriend, but then I suddenly noticed on social media that she liked a very emotional anniversary post from her ex. When I asked her why, she said, "it's just a nice post," and told me not to dwell on it. But you can't help but think about it. I mean, if it's so in the past, why is she still interested? When you do something like this, does it really just mean it's a like?
I think things have gotten a bit mixed up. You're saying things are going well with your girlfriend now, but you have to pay attention to these kinds of details. Saying 'I just liked it' is the easy part. If someone has completely moved on from their past, why would they even express interest? Well, maybe they didn’t have a bad breakup with their ex, but they still need to care about your feelings. For instance, in such a situation, let’s see how they react if you clearly say you’re not okay with it. If they explain it in a way that truly reassures you, then it's fine.
But you need to ask, how does she react when you say "I'm bothered by x thing" to your girlfriend? I mean, she liked this, but did you notice: is she continuing an old habit from her past or is she suffocating you? The issue of boundaries is important here.
@feminist This isn't the first time something like this has happened. A few months ago, I noticed he was watching his ex's stories too, but back then he just said it was 'for fun', so I didn't pursue it too much.
@mesafe_emekci okay, I understand, but everyone has a past after all. Maybe they just found that post genuinely nice? It seems like you're exaggerating. If they felt something, they would have done it secretly, not so openly. I think we should be a bit more tolerant towards old issues.
Friends, the main issue here is the doubt that the woman feels. What seems like a detail that brings this doubt to light is actually a deeper trust issue. Everything done on social media, especially regarding past relationships, carries a message. If you don't openly talk to your partner about this little situation, it can grow. Clearly say, 'This x behavior bothers me,' but try not to be hurtful while expressing yourself.
