One evening my partner went out for dinner. I heard that they met with their ex, but they kept this from me. Honestly, I feel really bad. What should I say to them now, should I question our relationship? I’m very hesitant.
There must be some benefit to meeting with an ex, I’ve experienced the same thing. Then their excuse was this nonsense: they say they catch up every once in a while. I mean, no one just meets up out of nowhere.
Where did you learn this? Did you catch it directly or did you hear it from someone else?
A friend of mine saw him there before I could drink my coffee, then I asked. At first, he dodged the question but eventually told me.
If it were up to me, why did you swallow this too? You say you hid it; if you hadn’t found out, they would have kept it a secret. This is serious.
This creates a serious trust issue in terms of behavior. You can’t say anything clearly without confronting the issue and asking openly about intentions. In my own life, I’ve only experienced unrest as long as I was not clear.
this isn’t about respecting the past, it’s plain hide-and-seek.
I think you need to dig a little deeper into this situation, especially why they are hiding it. They might have wanted to avoid embarrassment; the connection with an ex can be complicated. But if there’s “intentional hiding,” that’s another matter. I suggest you directly ask how they feel to clarify the situation.