I received an overseas transfer offer from a big company, and instead of accepting it right away, I wanted to share it with my girlfriend. She, however, dismissed it and said, 'You're just being fooled by such things right away.' I was taken aback about what to do. I expected support but instead, it ruined my morale. Isn't the support of a partner essential in such an important decision?
my ex was exactly like that too. he would joke about his career and always thought he was the important one. here's a suggestion: this isn't a small thing, it grows from here. if he made it clear that he doesn't take it seriously, the job is already in trouble 🙄
Is this the first time he did this? I mean, has he said something dismissive or that doesn't care about his career before? 🫣
@uykuarasi actually downplayed it this clearly for the first time, but I had felt a couple of times before that he made fun of my work 🙄
@makarnaoncesi isn't it an exaggeration? Is a sentence really going to change everything? I mean, the person's mood at that moment matters too, so we shouldn't cut them off saying 'they're not taking it seriously' right away.
In business life, such transfers are usually strategic; companies don’t easily offer something like this. Ask your partner what they find "deceptive" clearly. Instead of "belittling," they might be miscommunicating their concerns.
Are the conditions good, like the salary, benefits? Maybe your girlfriend finds the company unreliable; if by "they immediately deceive you" she means that, I can understand her doubts.
@bugun_degil but there’s something to consider: the phrase 'such things easily deceive' is quite dismissive, isn’t it? Even if the guy is anxious, I think he could have explained himself in a more proper way.
I think you should go. It's that simple 🤦♀️
Do you know the details about the position offered to you? At what level and under what conditions? Sometimes people judge without knowing the subject, does he really have an idea? Clarify this. Maybe he is just talking nonsense.
