Whenever my partner and I have a fight, they stay silent for days, and I try to make things right, but Iām tired of it. It feels like running away instead of solving things. Do you think this is normal, or is it hard to maintain a relationship this way? Am I just overthinking, or should I suggest that we talk about it?
My daughter, disagreements happen in every relationship, but staying angry for days, I donāt knowā¦ Sometimes itās necessary to apologize and make up. If itās like this now, what will happen when you get married? Running away is not a solution, is it?
My spouse would also withdraw for hours after an argument; we said, āit will get better over time,ā but honestly, itās the same. You need to establish this way of communicating early on. Otherwise, you will struggle a lot.
Honestly, you should take care of yourself a bit too. My ex used to say, āyouāre always yelling.ā Now I see their point. Maybe youāre being a bit pushy as well?
I think thereās something else going on here. What does he mean when he says, āThereās no problem, I just need a little timeā? Maybe thereās something bothering him that he canāt express.
Actually, your partner is now refusing to even discuss this issue with you. In the end, a relationship requires effort; you canāt carry the load alone. Silence can also be a form of exerting power.
This type of behavior usually indicates an āavoidanceā style. They may prefer to stretch out the resolution over time rather than finding a solution right away, but this could affect trust in the relationship in the long run. Speaking with a relationship counselor could be beneficial.
Let me add this: actually, I donāt shout while arguing or anything like that. I have a strong desire to resolve things right after the discussion. However, they go completely silent when they donāt want to talk. Anyway, I said patience, but Iām really struggling.
But what does āI need a little timeā really mean? My girlfriend said it once, and it turns out everything was already over in her mind. I mean, to be honest, that phrase always feels like thereās something hidden behind it.
Hereās the thing, men generally arenāt solution-oriented after an argument. We tend to want to calm down and think things over more. Itās not bad intention, but it can be misunderstood. If you want, talk in a way that sets when youāll return.