Yesterday we bought coffee, and the cashier handed me 1 TL in change. I reflexively took it, and later when we went outside, my partner said, “sometimes you look very stingy over such small things.” I was left speechless.
So it’s not about the 1 TL, it’s just change after all. On one hand, in the early days, you don’t want to look cheap in front of the other person. But why should I play a role at the cash register? Do you take your change when your partner is next to you, or do you leave it?
I get it. The issue there isn’t 1 TL, it’s the strange theater someone makes with their own money. If your partner has blown this up, I think there’s something else on their mind beyond just the change.
I take even a 10 kuruş, then it comes in handy in the car. If romance means burning money at the checkout, then I’m not in that club.
At first, everyone is watching each other too much. Just because you’ve got the money doesn’t mean you’ll be stingy, but maybe they were expecting a gesture. Still, making this a matter of sulking is childish.
The cashier is extending 1 TL there, are you going to look up dramatically to the sky? Just take it.
It needs to be separated: leaving a tip for the waiter is one thing, but getting change at the store/cafe register is another. Putting the two in the same category is silly.
When I let it go, I get annoyed inside saying, “why did I let it go now?” The rich role lasts two seconds, but the need for change lasts three days.
Sure, take it, my daughter. Is there a rule that says you shouldn’t take change when you’re with your boyfriend? Going shopping with someone who analyzes character over such small things is tiring.
@hatconene exactly, but there’s another side to it: If someone keeps splitting everything into tiny pieces on every account, they can become aloof. If this is the only issue, it’s exaggerated; if it’s a habit, that’s another topic.
Update: I asked today, it turns out his ex is calculating everything down to the last penny, he compared me to her. I said, “I reached for the money the cashier handed over, not her.” We laughed, but it was a bit awkward too.
@bozukparapanigi that’s been talked about well. But this judgment of the market cashier under the shadow of an ex is a bit too hasty.
Being compared to an ex is already an annoying thing, but is it healthy to think like that in such a minor situation? Does he react similarly in other matters, or was this just a momentary reflex? I think he should pay a bit more attention.
Now think from the exact opposite perspective: how many different scenarios are looping in the mind of someone who links everything back to an ex-relationship trauma over just 1 TL? I mean, you make a small move, and they write an entire story. Isn’t that a bit exhausting?