My partner said, “there should be no privacy in a relationship” and asked for my phone password, but I never asked for their password. I thought we had trust between us, but this request seems very strange to me. Do you think they’re right? Or is this crossing the boundary of my personal space?
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7So did he only ask you, or did he also say his own password? Usually, such things are mutual, so I wonder what he did without asking?
When a request like that comes in, it really bothers you, doesn’t it? It’s strange that someone asks you for your own password even though you don’t want to give it, it must have made you very uncomfortable at that moment.
I experienced the same thing, he also asked for the password saying it’s for security. I gave it to him, then things got really strange, he started looking through my contacts and such. So I suggest you be careful.
‘There shouldn’t be any hidden secrets in a relationship,’ they say, but then they don’t share anything themselves. How is that an understanding of an open relationship? It’s funny, really.
I think you should speak directly and clearly and say that it’s unnecessary. There’s no security in sharing passwords. If there’s a lack of trust, it won’t be resolved anyway 
Let me add this as well, he didn’t offer his own password by the way. I hadn’t asked, but when he asked me, it seemed very unbalanced.
But what does personal space mean in a relationship? If two people are becoming one, everything should be open. If you’re not hiding anything, why are you so hung up on not sharing the password?