So girls, last night while I was coming home from work, someone started calling me from behind. At first, I ignored it, but they insisted, saying, âCan I ask you something?â and got closer. When they said they wanted to get to know me, I got annoyed and sped up. But then I thought to myself, âMaybe I should have said something politely.â What should I do in situations like this? Do you think I was rude?
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7In such situations, itâs best to just say âno, I donât want toâ and walk away. If you approach politely, they might misunderstand and come on stronger. I think you should be clear and straightforward 
I think you could have pretended to walk with your phone and said something like âI want to be alone.â That way, youâd convey your message and deflect without feeling threatened.
Letâs be honest; they probably just wanted to meet you. Maybe they didnât have bad intentions? Instead of panicking and getting angry right away, if you simply said âno thanks,â the issue wouldnât have escalated 
In such situations, you cannot be sure of a personâs intentions. Even during the day, pay attention to your surroundings, and if necessary, carry a personal alarm with you. Calm and clear responses are always better.
Let me add a bit; I was actually scared because it was a bit deserted around at that time. I thought to myself, âWould the guy do something?â But then I reflected, âMaybe I didnât say anything rude, but my attitude was harsh.â
Hold on, what was the place where the incident happened like? Was it very remote or was it an area along a road? If it was remote, then you did the right thing; speeding up even makes sense.
But this issue is not about whether I should be polite. Approaching someone aggressively in the middle of the street is already a violation of boundaries. How you choose to protect yourself is not for anyone to judge. Such attitudes should not be normalized.