I recently lost a follower on social media, and it really affected me. Although it seems like a simple situation, it especially ruined my mood. I've been trying to stay away from social media for a few days, but it's still spinning in my head. What should I do for both my health and my mood?
I experienced the same thing last year. I was constantly thinking "what did I do wrong" just because I lost 3-5 followers. I took a break for 2 weeks, and when I distanced myself a bit, I realized it was a tiny thing.
Let me ask directly, was this follower a close friend or an ex-lover or something? You talk like it's not just an ordinary person.
@bugun_degil no way, it's not someone I know or anything, but it still affected me in a weird way. It feels like someone didn't like it.
@camkenari I don't think it's right to say it's just a tiny thing and brush it off. This event clearly has deeply affected the person's state of mind; such things shouldn't be taken lightly.
let's get clear now, if a person's mood is affected when someone leaves, it seems like the problem isn't social media. I think we need to dig a little deeper.
Actually, there are many people affected in this way by social media. Focusing on algorithms and likes can create psychological addiction. To reduce its impact in the long term, it would be beneficial to limit usage 🤔
Well, I don't understand this 😅
Social media detox is nice, but before completely quitting, ask yourself: is it the algorithm that's upsetting you, or people's behavior? Without knowing this, there's no solution 😐
I think completely shutting down is an extreme reaction. What happened to the people you follow and love? Did they also leave? Wouldn't it make more sense to filter instead of cutting it off abruptly?
You think you talk like someone who doesn't care about the number of followers, but you've actually been quite affected. Are you really hung up on the question "why did they stop following?" or does the general feeling of losing followers bother you? You can't solve it without understanding the difference.
Is it weirder to really ask "why?" when someone leaves, or to just brush it off with "it's just the algorithm"? Which one is more frustrating? It's hard to figure out a solution without understanding this. Maybe it's more about the feeling of losing control than the follower?
I think instead of pondering so much about the question "why did they stop following?", it would be more beneficial to take a look at who enjoys your content and who doesn't. Maybe the audience that interests you and makes you happy is no longer with you. Doesn't it make more sense to continue for those who remain?
But what if when someone leaves, those who remain might notice this mood of yours? Maybe people are fixated not on your content but on this vibe. Did it seem too much? 😬
Maybe people are annoyed by the "follow back after being followed" thing. I've observed it many times; someone follows you, and then when you follow them back, they unfollow you two days later. If it's not the algorithm, could it be because of this kind of situation?
Maybe it looks bigger now that you've closed it. If you had kept it open for a while and continued to engage with your content, you would have seen more clearly who was right to leave. Giving up so quickly might mean you created the real loss.
Maybe it's not about who likes or dislikes your content, but how you present yourself. Sometimes, if people get too much of a "I'm here, follow me" vibe, they can get turned off. Could you have given off such an energy?
I think the main issue is this: You closed the door, but are you sad about those you missed, or do you want to resolve something related to yourself? If the question "why did they leave?" is still haunting you, just shutting it down won't end that mental struggle. Look at it openly and calmly, see who has left and why. Learn a lesson from that. Turning a blind eye is not the solution.
