A really great opportunity to work abroad has come up for me, with an amazing salary and conditions. But my partner has always thought my job here was too much and keeps complaining that I work too hard. Now I feel like if I bring this up, she might get upset. It's a huge chance for my career, but I'm afraid it might harm my relationship. What would you do if you were in my place?
I've experienced a similar situation; I had received a job offer from London. My girlfriend didn't want me to go, but I spoke openly about it. Even though she said 'Don't go,' I accepted and went. We broke up 3 months later, but my career is in a really good place right now. If I had focused on the relationship, I would have regretted it.
a friend of mine was caught between a job and a relationship like this too. She accepted the offer and at first, her boyfriend was really upset. But then they managed to keep in touch regularly and the guy started to support her over time. You know, it doesn't have to go badly all the time 🙄
Sorry, but it seems like you care a bit too much about work. When your partner says 'you're working too much,' they might actually mean 'you're putting our relationship on the back burner.' Are you choosing to go abroad and work even more now?
Work-life balance is very sensitive. If you involve your partner in the process, meaning that if the dates are clear for your comings and goings and you've discussed such a solution beforehand, their anxiety will decrease as well. Try to explain clearly why this opportunity is important.
By the way, I forgot to write, but the offer is from Germany. It's actually a 1-year project, not permanent. Maybe by the end of this period, I can come back and arrange my job here as well, but I still don't know what my girlfriend will say.
I still don't understand. I mean, you say a year, "I'll come back," but you're still scared. Honestly, I think the real problem isn't your partner; you seem a bit indecisive too. Of course, the guy gets upset because you don't seem completely sure about what you want 😅
