I’ve been engaged to my fiancé for about 6 months, and we are making wedding preparations, but lately there’s something that’s been seriously bothering me: I can’t stand how he can’t put his phone down. I’m waking up at 2 or 3 a.m. because of the light from the screen. I asked him, “What are you doing at this hour?” and he said, “I’m playing a game, it helps me unwind.” But can you really play games for that long? If he’s texting or doing other things, I would never know. I don’t want to go snooping, but my head is filled with a million questions. Do you think I’m blowing this out of proportion, or am I right to be concerned?
Playing games at this hour is really strange, you know. My spouse was really into their phone for a while too, but we talked openly about it. I said, ‘You’re bothering me, my sleep is being disturbed.’ They agreed to leave the phone in the living room at night. Just talk about it directly, otherwise it won’t get resolved.
So, did this phone issue start in the last 6 months, or was it like this before as well? I mean, was he doing this before the engagement?
@deryali92 Actually, he was always interested in his phone, but it wasn’t like this. It has increased a lot in the last 2-3 months. I thought maybe it’s due to work stress or something, but I’m starting to suspect since it got so excessive.
@mavisumru not everyone is open to talking like your partner. Maybe the guy is more introverted? I think she shouldn’t blame him right away; she should try to understand first, especially if he said he’s going through a stressful time.
In situations like this, it would be more appropriate to express your discomfort openly rather than blame your fiancé. Instead of saying, “I’m watching you and I’m suspicious,” bring up specific concerns like, “The light at night is waking me up and our communication is decreasing.” Maybe he is really just playing games, but you need to share your worries.
@soran I was thinking exactly what you said. You say it could be work stress, but what if their mind is somewhere else? Sometimes silence hides things better. I’d say be careful.
So ladies, the issue here is not what the man is doing, but that he shouldn’t be left so aimless. A man should hold a certain responsibility. Even if he acted this way in the past, isn’t it a problem that you didn’t notice? I think you should question your engagement.