I hid the test stick in my bag, my girlfriend saw it

Pregnancy & Birth
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Last week, when my period was late, I bought a test from the pharmacy. The result was positive, but I didn’t know what to do, so I kept it hidden in my bag. My boyfriend found it while rummaging through my bag. Now he keeps asking, “What is this?” I didn’t want to say anything without thinking first, and now I don’t know how to explain it. What can I do?

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Honestly, I think your partner was in the wrong. Going through your bag is basically invading your personal space. I mean, in the end, you just didn’t want to say anything before being asked, and I think you were right about that. They came at you with accusations right away; I wish they’d shown a little empathy. It sounds like there are some communication issues in your relationship, but I’d say try having a calm conversation first. Maybe ask why they acted that way, and things might become a bit clearer.

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Is this the first time this is happening? I mean, has your partner done this kind of mixing up before? If it’s always like this, then the real issue here seems to be more than just the test :neutral_face:

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@gercekci actually yes, it doesn’t seem like this is the first time. They had messed with my phone once before, but I thought we had talked it through. Now I’m really confused since this happened again :smiling_face_with_tear:

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@mesafe_emekci I think you’re looking at this very romantically. If there’s something so important in your bag, I think it’s normal for your partner to react like that. Anyone would be taken aback. But of course, mixing things up is a separate issue; we should talk about that too, but your silence while asking the question might be annoying for the other person.

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In such special matters, communication is very, very important. First of all, rummaging through the bag, yes, is considered a breach of privacy, but it is completely related to intent. If your test result is positive, it would be good to clarify this with a doctor from the start. You can confirm it with a quick blood test, for example. When talking with your partner, if you provide clear information, their reaction may be more reasonable.