Guys, I took a test yesterday and it came back positive. I’m not even married yet; my parents are definitely going to lose it! My boyfriend doesn’t know either, and I have no idea how to tell him. The guilt is really eating me up; should I not say anything or should I just talk about it openly? What would you do in a situation like this?
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8I can say I experienced the same thing. Two years ago, when my test came back positive, I was at my student house, and I couldn’t tell my parents or anyone. It was initially hard to tell my partner, but things got easier once we worked together. Honestly, in that moment, you tend to blow things out of proportion, but the solution is in collaboration.
I think your partner is responsible for this as well, but what are you doing? We need to focus on them. The idea of not telling anyone is not a proper solution because this situation is not a one-person issue. You have to be honest and act with trust 
In such situations, the emotional burden can be quite heavy, but I think it’s best to calm down a bit first. It becomes your responsibility to inform your partner, as this situation may not only affect you. Being open in communication provides long-term benefits. Seeking professional support can also ease the process, whether psychological or medical.
Friends, thank you for the comments. Let me add one thing: I’ve only been with my girlfriend for a few months, so I’m honestly finding it a bit harder. I still can’t bring myself to talk to my parents about it, but I’ve seriously decided to talk to my girlfriend. I hope her reaction will be understanding.
Oh yeah, that really consumes you, I can understand. When you wake up in the morning, it’s the first thing on your mind, it gnaws at you all day. When you talk to your partner, it feels like it might lighten up a bit, because feeling like you’re not alone is pretty uplifting.
Actually, this situation is more common than you might think, especially among young couples. Even if no one thinks “what should I do” at first, they end up having to learn to take responsibility. Telling your parents, in my opinion, is the second issue; it feels more like something you need to resolve with your partner.
I’m sure there’s something else going on, otherwise you wouldn’t be this panicked. It seems like you and your partner didn’t really talk about the relationship from the start, how can there be that much trust in such a short time? Maybe you’re afraid of your partner’s reaction, is that it?
I don’t think the issue here is whether to tell the truth or not; there’s a deeper power imbalance at play. Are you not sure if your partner will take responsibility, or do you want to hide this due to societal pressures? This is entirely your body, your decisions, but don’t forget that escaping from honesty is not an option.