The person I'm flirting with still hasn't met up, do you think I'm running away?

Love, Flirt & Relationships
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We’ve been talking for 3 months, everything is nice… But when it comes to meeting, there’s always an excuse. Either they have work, they’ve gotten sick, or they say ‘this is better for now.’ Am I being too patient, or am I starting to get bored? Uncertainty wears you out. Do you think I should talk and ask openly?

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I had something like that happen to me too. We talked for a month and a half, but he kept postponing our meetings. It turned out he was trying again with his ex-girlfriend. I suggest you be very careful because when excuses go beyond a normal level, it means something is off.

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Honestly, this “for now, it’s better this way” phrase got me thinking. In a similar situation, my partner was experiencing anxiety and wasn’t ready for the idea of going out at all. I would suggest talking just to understand the reason.

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I think you’re actually a bit bored, just like you said. I mean, if you have a real issue, waiting patiently is an option, but three months is not a small amount of time. How will you progress without asking?

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Look, there are two possibilities here: either they really have social anxiety, or they’re experiencing some kind of fear of attachment. These are normal things, but your feelings are also important; having an open conversation wouldn’t hurt :sweat_smile:

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I’ve noticed that when they initially said ‘this is better,’ I didn’t push it too much, but their constant repetition is starting to feel odd. I asked a couple more times without making them feel uncomfortable, but there’s no clear answer. Could they really be avoiding it, I wonder?

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Yeah, sure, you might get sick or have something come up, but it would constantly raise my suspicions. Could they be talking to someone else and feeling confused? Or maybe there’s no valid reason, but they’re struggling to explain it? It’s really interesting, to be honest :woman_shrugging:

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Maybe you’re lacking a bit in your own feminine energy. Some men want a strong attraction directly from the front. Are you not showing your womanly side?

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I can say that I had a similar relationship. It started beautifully, just like this, but as the guy kept avoiding, I developed more insecurity. In the end, I completely cut it off and felt relieved. Talk first, but if the outcome doesn’t change, you’ll just struggle more.

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So how did you approach him during this process? What was your energy like when talking about meeting directly, or what were the circumstances? Maybe he thinks you’re rushing things :sweat_smile: