She asked about my salary at dinner; I got angry

A friend asked me about my salary the other evening and explicitly compared it. I don’t know, this situation really bothered me. As a friend, is it normal to push boundaries on such a personal issue?

what is there to exaggerate this much :roll_eyes:

I experienced something similar with a coworker recently. I felt uncomfortable and brushed it off politely. After that, they never brought up my salary again. :sweat_smile:

If you’re wondering whether we’re that close of friends, you already know your answer. I wouldn’t wait too long; just say it clearly.

It’s best to clearly express your discomfort in this situation. You can start with something straightforward like, “I wanted to share with you that this issue has been bothering me.”

@hatconene actually this isn’t the first time; there have been similar questions about financial issues before, but I didn’t emphasize it back then.

@biseydiycem it might be simple for you, but everyone’s line is different; I’m saying we should have a little respect for that.

It would bother me. Is it possible that they are comparing your job position too? Maybe thoughts like ‘I should be in a better place’ or ‘who deserves more’ are going through their mind.

I don’t think it’s such an innocent comparison. They might be learning your salary and putting you in a certain category, like they’re measuring “value.” It bothered you because you seem to be looking for an underlying power balance, and you’re right to feel that way.