I noticed that my manager is asking me too many personal questions at work. The other day, out of the blue, they asked if I was in a relationship with someone from social media. I'm not comfortable, but I can't say for sure if I'm misunderstanding things. Should I go to HR, or would that just cause more trouble for me?
I used to have an old manager who would ask personal questions like that. It turns out he was quite the gossip, making up stories based on what he learned. Maybe he did it to unwind, but I still think you should be careful.
Just make it clear without being direct. For example, say 'Questions like this make me a bit uncomfortable,' and they will probably understand. If it continues, you can go to HR, but I think you should first express that you're uncomfortable clearly.
What kind of logic is this? The guy just said he's interested. Maybe he really is. Isn't it strange to immediately think of HR or something else? I think you should decide at least after having a conversation.
I should add that, overall, they're actually a good person, but I became uneasy as the questions piled up. By the way, when I say 'there was an implication,' it's not something explicit, but their energy feels strange.
Honey, if I were you, I would handle it alone, but it's clear you’re feeling uncomfortable. So don’t overthink it, just calmly and politely say that you're feeling uneasy. Let's see how they react. This is how these things get resolved.
