I’ve been trying to lose weight for a long time and I’ve dropped from size 42 to size 36. But now, when I go out, my family and those around me are constantly interfering with the clothes I wear. When I wear clothes that highlight my slight body curves, they say, ‘It would be better if it were more modest’ and suggest I wear baggy things. But honestly, I feel better than ever for the first time, and this style is exactly what I envisioned. What do you think I should do in this situation? Should I listen to them or do what I want?
9 Answers
9I experienced the same thing when I lost weight and went from a size 40 to a size 36. My mom kept saying, ‘You don’t need to wear something so tight, focus on your comfort.’ But the things that truly make you feel at peace with yourself are the clothes you want to wear, even if they’re tight. I gave them some time; they got tired of talking.
I don’t think you need to explain too much to the family, this is your body and your closet. But if you really want to say something, you can say, ‘I’m not cold enough to dress sloppily.’ Humor is also the softest thing 
Sweetheart, just because you’ve lost some weight doesn’t mean you always have to show off your figure. Being casual doesn’t mean looking bad; you can achieve elegance with tasteful and neat choices as well. Your family cares about you, and it would be good to listen to them a bit.
I believe there are still some things to be considered in our society. After all, families are cautious because of the criticisms they anticipate. A woman’s elegance should be somewhat measured, otherwise rumors will start.
To be honest, I wear size 36 as well and I don’t get comments like that from my surroundings. I think there’s a chance they might have mixed in a bit of jealousy. If your friends around you aren’t saying things like ‘oh, I love this,’ then just wear what you like.
Maybe there is an intention behind what people say to you that means ‘we are thinking of you,’ so don’t react immediately. Self-confidence is good, but it’s also important to balance it with the dynamics of your environment. You can do what you want, but you might want to consider the middle ground based on the reactions you receive.
Actually, what they call “baggy” isn’t always completely loose. They’re suggesting a slightly straight cut or something. But in those clothes, I feel like I look a lot like my “old self,” which annoys me 
So, yeah, you’ve lost some weight, but I think you’re being a bit too proud about it. After all, you’re talking about your family; they might be suggesting you don’t wear something bad, not to criticize you but to help you look more mature. It seems to me that you’re blowing this reaction out of proportion.
I don’t know, but it seems strange that they are so focused on it. It might not just be about the clothing issue. Maybe they have suspicions about someone around you and are using this as a cover to talk about it? I think you should poke around a bit more without taking it too seriously.