Recently, I was trying to count calories at a family dinner, and everyone served me desserts, especially. I felt bad because even though they were looking at my plate, I had to just drink water since I knew what was in it. This situation makes me feel both uncomfortable and lonely. Is what I'm experiencing normal?
I don't think it's normal at all 🙂
Mine do the same, they literally shove desserts in my face. I didn't engage in a long debate, I just opened my diet plan on my phone and started explaining what I could eat that day. Eventually, they got tired.
Is this their first time doing this or is it always like this at every gathering? If it's always like this, why are you still sitting at the same table with them? Haven't you ever talked? 😂
If you're counting calories, bring something prepared with you wherever you go. This way, you can choose the dessert yourself and say, "this is what I have that suits me already." It's not rude 😐
I mean, when you say you had to drink water, you're exaggerating a bit, I think. Just having a bite of dessert won't kill you, in my opinion. Of course, family shouldn’t take everything personally, but your side is complicated too 🙄
@yazipsildim they actually know I haven't liked sweets for years, and diet is not an excuse either. But it's especially the insistence, for example, when the sweets at home ran out, my mom gave me what was on her plate.
@hatconene you keep saying it's a fork, but what if life is planned around sports? You say that, but sometimes even 'a fork' can throw us off balance.
I think you should talk about this at the next meal. If you clearly say "I don't like dessert" and don't take the plate, maybe they'll stop insisting. I think if you take it and leave it, they feel like you're insisting.
@cokdaseyapma Are people really eating a whole plate of cake? What difference does a fork make? If there's no room for something sweet to challenge you in sports, then skip this family too.
Even if you say you don't like sweets, they might not understand the "what harm can come from just a forkful" part. Have you ever tried to say it directly like, "I want you to stop insisting on this"? Or does it just sound like polite information that you don't like sweets? 😅
