My family always gives me wrong information about pregnancy. They say things like, āDrink a lot of tea to avoid miscarriage.ā Iām worried about how to act with this information, and I canāt share this situation with anyone. Iām afraid of what might happen.
I had similar experiences too. When I was pregnant, someone told me to āeat sugar with a cup so the baby would be chubby.ā Thatās just completely nonsense, of course; I followed a plan based on advice from a dietitian.
Are you listening to these things, then? How sensible is it to move with tea-drinking conversations?
@kahvebitmeden What should I do? Sometimes they come at me so hard that I canāt even stand up for myself. And the worst part is, they keep giving examples, like, āif you donāt do this, it will be like what happened to that neighbor.ā
@aklimkaldi I donāt understand why you are submitting. If you donāt respond to hearsay, theyāll always come at you.
Are you kidding me, preventing low blood pressure with tea?
In such cases, itās best to talk to your doctor. There is a lot of misinformation circulating in society. Tea has no such effect whatsoever.
I saw the headline, and itās always like this. Whatever anyone says in the neighborhood seems to be true. Everyone has become a biology expert, incredible.
I should tell her to go to obstetrics, thereās no other solution.
Honestly, donāt pay much attention to those around you. Acting according to what the doctor says will ease your mind.
The incident is already being compared with neighbors. No one may believe that tea prevents it, but theyāre manipulating you with the story of āthis didnāt happen to them because they didnāt do this.ā Furthermore, when they canāt prevent it, theyāre setting the stage to blame you with āsee, we told you so.ā
But let me tell you something, the worst part is that sometimes those hearsay things turn out to be true by chance, and thatās when they come down even harder on you. Have you ever experienced something like that? That confusion is just awful.
Coincidental correct predictions are much worse because then the āwe told you soā vibe can last forever. But the main problem is that even if something like this turns out to be true, nobody questions how that information was verified, under what conditions it is valid. Everyone walks around like a hearsay scientist.
Thereās also this aspect to it: when itās said within the family, whether you want it or not, it can make you feel a sense of responsibility. You start to feel anxious thinking, āWhat if itās true?ā Thatās why those silly suggestions become more effective; they stress you out even when you donāt want to.
The problem is that āwhat if itās trueā doubt. Even if itās not an option, it spins in your mind like a possibility, and before you know it, it influences your decisions. Thatās why you need to pause at some point and eliminate that doubt with clear information; otherwise, it feels like you have to do everything. So I ask, which is worse: those who speak without knowing, or those who donāt stop it even knowing?
But let me say one thing, what if the root of this issue actually comes from not being able to trust doctors? I mean, thereās that mindset among some people that ādoctors donāt know everything,ā and itās like a reflex triggered by that. Because they fill that knowledge gap with the ridiculous suggestions of others, you see.
On one hand, thereās this: People tend to regard their own experience as superior to that of doctors, because the stories of those around them seem more āreal.ā But what percentage are you in the same circumstances? Is this a solution to a situation the doctor cannot know, or just a meaningless anecdote? No one questions these things.
The real problem is that at some point, you too start to get swept away by this flood of information and begin to wonder if itās really true. You said no one questions it, but on the other hand, people stop making that inquiry. As you think, āWhat if these hearsay things turn out to be true?ā you gradually start to dismiss even that doctorās information; donāt you think so?
But thatās precisely the issue of trust crisis. Itās not just about not caring for the doctor; itās also about not caring for oneself. People disable their own minds while commenting on othersā stories. One needs to be able to say, āMy situation is not like that,ā and that requires courage.