My sister’s fiancé asked me during breakfast, “What did you feel in your first experience?” I was really shocked and didn’t want to talk about it, but he insisted on continuing. Is it normal to be this intimate, or how appropriate is it to talk about such things? My sister places a lot of importance on these topics; I wonder how she would react to his questions.
What kind of question is this? It’s really strange.
Something similar happened to me; my fiancé’s brother was being very friendly, but he didn’t cross any boundaries. I think you should tell your sister about it directly.
Has he done this before? Or is this the first time he has spoken like this?
@camkenari had actually asked some ridiculous questions a few times, but it wasn’t this far.
If you’ve done this before, why did you stay silent? You shouldn’t normalize it; this is wrong.
@makarnaoncesi I think telling her directly would complicate things a lot; she should talk to her fiancé first.
The seriousness of this is undeniable. Discussing such a private matter is an invasion of boundaries, even if it’s your sister, if you don’t want it. Just express your discomfort directly and explain it to your sister.
If your fiancé’s sibling is asking strange questions about private matters, what you need here is not politeness but distance. You are not obliged to feed people’s curiosity.
@hatconene I think it’s a distance. In fact, if there’s someone in the family who asks strange questions, a microphone shouldn’t be given at the wedding; it’s a precaution from the start.
@meric you brought the topic back to the wedding hall again. It has nothing to do with the microphone, there are personal boundaries. You don’t need to embellish this so much.
Giving the impression that you’re open to such questions can sometimes be encouraging. It might be more effective to draw a clear line when reacting and cut off communication at that moment. If the same thing happens again, then a serious conversation with your fiancé is necessary.