I have a few extra kilos, but it’s not too much. My mom pressures me when I wear tight pants, saying ‘you don’t look mature, you’re making your weight more obvious.’ Am I compromising my own taste, or is my mom actually right? What would you do in such a situation?
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8I experienced a similar situation too. My mom would always say, “Your legs look thick,” but no matter what I did, I didn’t want to wear wide pants. In the end, I combined it with a loose sweater and chose a dark color for the skinny jeans. It kept me comfortable, and I felt good.
I think the solution is simple: if you want to wear tight pants, choose something looser on top. For example, long cardigans can be a lifesaver. Your mom will feel more comfortable, and you won’t have to give up your tight pants ![]()
It’s normal to take what your mom says seriously, but if you’re constantly hearing comments about your clothing choices, it must have been challenging. Just the feeling of opening your wardrobe in the morning and thinking ‘I wonder if this will start a fight today’ is enough to weigh on a person.
I wanted to add that my mother’s concern is also about the neighbors or relatives. She says things like, ‘What will I tell them, it would be embarrassing.’ The weight part might be an excuse ![]()
Your mother might be right. After all, society has its own order, and it’s not wrong to make sacrifices to prevent your mother from feeling embarrassed. You can enjoy your own pleasures, but you should choose
No one has the right to decide on your clothes, not even our mothers. Under the pretense of ‘what society says,’ there is control over women’s bodies and clothing; this attitude is disturbing.
Actually, the issue of skinny jeans highlighting body contours may stem from your mother’s value judgments, but we know that wearing overly tight clothes for extended periods can slow down circulation. It makes sense to find a middle ground in terms of comfort and health.
But on the other hand, I can understand where your mom is coming from. Families often guide young people with good intentions. Dressing appropriately for your weight can look more stylish; there’s nothing wrong with that ![]()