My mom cooks very well, but I’ve been trying to diet for a while, so I’m eating less. Yesterday we sat down at the table again, and I turned down the rice she put on my plate and said I wanted a little less to eat. My mom got really upset and said, ‘Don’t you want my effort anymore?’ I’m always trying to explain it to her, but I feel like she’s breaking inside. How should I express this, do you think I was too hurtful without realizing it?
it’s actually quite a classic thing. When we try to eat less at home, my mom immediately goes into a mood. They perceive food as a sign of love. I think you should keep explaining it calmly; over time, they might get used to it.
How old are you? Are you still living in the same house?
@cokdaseyapma yes, we are in the same house, moving right now is not possible. Rent is already very difficult.
@makarnaoncesi but isn’t there some fault with the person here too? I think it’s unnecessarily hurtful to let someone know you’re not satisfied with the food you ate. Your mom is right a bit 
Actually, mothers do this unconsciously; they relate it to food. But we need to be clear. Explain the diet directly and discuss the portions from the start. Avoid blaming or complaining.
I wouldn’t turn the plate back even if I reduced the grill. It just became an unpleasant situation, you know? 
We understood the mother’s frustration about the food, but where is the respect for your diet? You keep explaining it, but it seems like she doesn’t care about your choices at all. Will you set a clear boundary to reduce the conflict, or is this story going to restart every time?