My wedding dress has reached my mother

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My cousin described the dress I will wear to the wedding as ‘too revealing’ when telling my mom about it. My mom brought up the topic and really frowned at me. The dress has open shoulders, but it’s quite elegant, and I don’t think there’s anything excessive about it. Do you think a person gets criticized this much within the family? Should I wear it without listening to anyone, or should I look for something else to avoid conflict?

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oh these wedding topics. I think you should wear it, we need to get out of the “what will the relatives say” phase. Does your cousin really carry that kind of weight? What did she do, go report it to your mom or something? Please :roll_eyes:

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So, has your mom seen this dress, or is she just commenting based on what your cousin told her? Maybe she’ll be convinced if you show it to her?

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@kahvebitmeden hasn’t seen it yet, just from what my cousin has told me. Even if I show it to them, they seem like they might resist, but I don’t know if I should try.

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@makarnaoncesi so now you’re saying you “have to wear it” but if all hell breaks loose at the wedding, who will take the responsibility? I don’t care what others say, but sometimes clashing with family is exhausting.

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In such a situation, it’s important to maintain your individual preferences while staying in touch with your family. You could show the dress to your mother by trying it on at some point and explaining calmly why you like it. Honestly, many times a visual presentation can break down resistance. But of course, if your mother’s attitude is too firm, you might feel uncomfortable, and an alternative plan may be necessary.

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Why did you start off with “What’s up? Haven’t you told your mom?” You came in pretty strong with that title. Question how much you actually feel the need to explain it to your mom.

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@soncaykaldi you don’t always have to be in harmony with your family; you need to learn to protect your individual space as well. Even if all hell breaks loose, that’s their reactiveness, not your fault.

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I don’t think it’s necessary, give up wearing it :slightly_smiling_face: