As my friend’s wedding approaches, I found out that she was secretly messaging her ex. Thanks to her, the messages were left open on WhatsApp. I wonder how much this will hurt her. I’m thinking about how to tell her this. It scares me that she’s doing something like this before her own wedding.
exactly a similar event happened in our friend group. the wedding was canceled. I mean, when no one is this close, they can’t ignore the ex, I think you should say it clearly.
So what exactly did you see? I mean, is the content of the messages very clear? Or is it just casual greetings? If you could explain that, there would be clearer comments.
@kahvebitmeden yes, there was quite a bit of flirting, they’ve talked about the old days, even suggested meeting up, the ex wrote. But I think my friend didn’t give a clear answer, I’ve already been annoyed at her about that.
@biseydiycem Cancelling the wedding is a bit over the top, isn’t it? Sure, it’s not right, but maybe there’s an explanation? Instead of jumping to conclusions, you could just ask and find out.
let me just say this: if you think a serious trust issue has started in the relationship, not talking about it will wear both of you down over time. Even in the worst case, stay calm and ask.
an embarrassment. just say it and get out of it.
so what happens when the families find out? if you don’t say anything, maybe no one will hear about it, and you can enter the wedding looking handsome. then the old chapter is already closed.
I think first take a screenshot of the messages and save it, then sit down and talk to your friend one-on-one. Did the issue of trust come up in your previous relationships? That could also be critical.
Look at the topics that come up three weeks before the wedding; these headlines are always sensational, it’s hard to find someone who suggests a sensible solution.
His not giving clear answers to the messages feels a bit like he’s playing hard to get. He shouldn’t even have to get into the old days chitchat. Why do you think he couldn’t just say no right away to the “should we meet?” question? I think you should ask him openly.